It's that time of the week again....Monday!!
It comes around so quickly.
A new week full of new opportunities :)
If you're on my Facebook, you may have
seen that I went to something called the
UK Ultimate Physique competition
at the weekend.
I've never seen so many tanned and
I wasn't part of it...I was a spectator.
One of my best friends entered and got
It's not a body building one but for the
ladies, it's a bikini competition.
They are judged on who looks the best
in a bikini,
judged on certain muscle groups and
how much definition they have.
Since I've got to get in a bikini at the
end of this week,
(sorry to rub it in- hehe!)
I thought it might give me a bit of motivation
to be really good.
In all honesty, I was sat in the audience
eating haribos. Whoops! Lol!
It didn't have the desired effect
that I thought it would.
Seeing these ladies, I could appreciate
how much hard work had gone into
getting into this shape.
I knew first hand from my friend how
much of a mental and physical journey
it had been and I'm extremely proud of her.
However, seeing how little body fat some
of them had made me a little uncomfortable.
Hearing the stories from my friend of how they
go into depletion mode in the last two weeks,
cutting calories and carbs right down,
how some of them dehydrate themselves for 24
hours and then drink straight gin for further
dehydration, doesn't do it for me.
Even my friend said she would never promote
that way of life herself.
She said in those last two weeks she was
under weight, she was full of spots, emotional,
teary and not mentally in a good place.
I understand that it's all part of the challenge for
the competition and I hold my hands up to them
for their commitment to the competition.
However, I couldn't do it myself or
promote to others.
On the other hand, there was a female judge sat
right in front of me.
She had the most amazing body I've ever seen-
big toned muscly thighs and bum, a little waist,
boobs and lovely toned arms.
She looked about a size 12.
I think I may have a girl crush!
Maybe I loved her because I could see her physique
being more achievable for my shape than I could the
bikini models on stage.
She had recently entered a competition in America.
I found her very inspirational, especially when at the
lunch break she was eating a sandwich and chocolate
It showed me how real she is ;)
People see a lot of these teeny, tiny bikini models on
Instagram and lots of ladies look to them for motivation
but feel they will never achieve it.
In fact, that's the reason I don't really browse on Instagram.
Instead of motivating me, it makes me feel inadequate.
Life would be boring if we were all the same
shape and size, clones of each other.
All shapes and sizes should be celebrated.
Everybody has different preferences on what they
want to achieve.
My advice is to set something realistic for your
Yes, it's great to aim high.
However, look for someone for something that
inspires you and remember why it inspires you.
Have a great Monday!!
Ellen 'girl crush' Murray
Ellen Murray: spreading hope, self-belief and empowerment to real women.