Is it just me or is everybody feeling weird and unsettled this week?
Maybe it's something to do with the moon and energy.
On Monday, I promised a positive mindset email to be with you yesterday.
Unfortunately, I felt a bit of a fraud sending it.
I wasn't believing in what I was saying.
I wasn't following my own advice.
So I decided against it.
The past few weeks have been a little stressful moving venues.
It's taken its toll on my own nutrition and exercise.
Stress always leads to me going into self destruct mode.
Not eating well.
I've gained a few pounds.
I look in the mirror and feel disgusted.
I look at my stomach at every angle and then pick something baggy to cover it up.
I dread opening my wardrobe.
You know that feeling?
Yesterday I thought;
"I can't send out motivational emails when I'm a huge mess.
Why would people want to listen to it?
Especially if they see the state of me."
I got up today and realised how stupid and destructive that train of thought is.
Did you know that over 80% of our daily thoughts are negative ones?
We actively have to work on our mindset to flip those negative thoughts into positive ones.
Instead of dwelling on that number on the scales that I saw,
I remembered what one of our new members said last week.
She reached out to me through Facebook and asked for some help.
She knows me from working in our local coffee shop.
I met for a coffee with her and she said she had asked me for help because she sees me going into the coffee shop.
Sees that I don't just eat lettuce and that I'm a 'real normal person.'
Not some sort of scary fitness person who eats chicken and broccoli from tupperware.
Following our meeting, she joined up to our Bootcamp programme.
That gave me some great comfort.
The reason she signed up because she knows I'm human.
I understand the struggles that most women go through.
I have my own struggles.
Its like we're always under this pressure from ourselves to be something better.
To be like someone else.
To be a wonder woman.
Sometimes being YOU is good enough.
We often don't appreciate how amazing we are.
I speak to so many women who are down on themselves.
Put so much pressure on.
When in fact, it can make us go the other way.
A little self love and appreciation can go a long way.
My aim today is to look in the mirror and instead of having negative thoughts,
be positive and thankful.
I want you to aim to have 3 nice thoughts about yourself each day. It helps if you write these down or say them out loud.
Go on, do to right now!!
Let me knowhow you get on.
Lots of love.
Ellen 'let's start being more positive' Murray
Ellen Murray: spreading hope, self-belief and empowerment to real women.